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Marguerite Hinojosa's avatar

Hey Nan, Loved this essay. You always impress me with the way you live life:Full On! I love your willingness to celebrate yourself. No shyness in you,from what I see!

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks Marguerite! I’m learning to live. It’s quite wonderful, actually. And I’m shy sometimes. My outgoing nature sometimes feels like a coping mechanism if I’m uncomfortable. But for the most part, no. I’m not what I would describe as a shy person. xoxo

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Deborah Lisheid's avatar

Definitely inspiring and ever so real, as always Nan. Thank you.

My fave meal in my WHOLE life was at the bar at Union Square Cafe. Love that we share the love of the place; so special.

And, next time we chat I'll share my semi-colon story - it's a hoot.

Much love to you my friend.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Hey! Do you remember what you ate??? I loved that place. I should go to the new location. Haven't been, but I don't get to the city that often any more. Dying to hear your semi-colon story. Love you too. We have to catch up!

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Christina Patterson's avatar

Wonderful piece, Nan. I love your writing. It's so fresh and alive.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thank you, Christina! xo

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Tess McCarthy's avatar

Oh! Happy Birthday again 🎂🍰🎂

I cried happy tears and with so much warmth...barber passed? Check. Wishing for clarity? Check! Wow. What a ride between 49 to 63.

Hope it was with cake—some good cake!

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Nan Tepper's avatar

You're so dear, Tess! 64! And, no, I didn't have cake, but the month isn't over. It was the first time. We had Japanese food for dinner, and they made the most awful attempt at a matcha layer cake. Layers and layers of thin crepe pancakes with some strange filling in between each one. It was impressive to look at but I tasted it and passed. Oh, just describing it makes me want cake right now! We'll see. xo

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Tess McCarthy's avatar

And what a birthday!

(I had Japanese food too on mine, fellow Pisces!)

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Tess McCarthy's avatar

Ah! I meant mathematically 63—right? Up until your 63rd birthday I was talking about your progression.

Was it a bumpy ride your first year? And when I mean bumpy, I'm only acknowledging what you've been through. What you talk about in the post above didn't feel easy. It seemed bittersweet. Bumpy can be bittersweet and positive because it is acknowledging everything.

I see I have to give you more context there!

Literally it’s 64 like the Beatles song as you mention. 😌

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Bumpy is definitely bittersweet. My life right before 50 was as messy and hard as it had ever been. More to come later. 59-64. The best years of my life. Not the easiest, but the best. xo

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Tess McCarthy's avatar

♥️

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Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

Loved this, Nan. So, what happened to the shoes? 😉

Some of my best birthdays have been the ones I planned myself, or those for which I stripped away all expectation.

Have we talked about being the same age? At least, I think so.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

I’m learning!

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks, Elizabeth! I think I gave them to a friend who lives down the street. They were ridiculous for me. This last birthday was amazing for me. I usually love being queen for a day, the center of everything, all come and bow down to Nan. That's why I was so upset at the approach of my 50th. I didn't feel that way at all. But this year, I did almost nothing. Spent the day home, writing, met my bestie for dinner and that was it! And it was perfect because I didn't need more. I had/have everything I need. I have me. So good to get to this place. I didn't even have CAKE. That was truly the oddest and most wonderful part. And it's still March, so I may indulge if the pull is strong! xo

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Elizabeth Beggins's avatar

I love that you can give yourself permission to have it, or not! 🎂

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Eileen Dougharty's avatar

THOSE SHOES! I love that you were so sold on them, like "Yes! These feel special".

There's something about the way you say the word "favorite" that makes me grin. You infuse it with so much sunshine.

I'm glad you're recording your past posts. I recently bought a microphone so someday I might be as cool as you are ❤️

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Oh, I can't wait for you to start recording your writing. I know your voice. You'll be fabulous, most likely you'll be my favorite! Love you, cookie. xo

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Eileen Dougharty's avatar

YOU ARE THE COOKIE 🍪

Thank you for the encouragement. Love you tooooooo. ♥️

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Eileen Dougharty's avatar

A snickerdoodle. Unless I’m an oatmeal scotchie.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Really? I had you pegged as an Oreo girl. You're pretty fancy, you know? xo

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Eileen Dougharty's avatar

Oh no. Oreos are work cookies and they are far too crunchy. I prefer soft middles. I have fancy cookie opinions ;)

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Ah...soft middles. Good to know. xo

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Can't we both be cookies? I'm chocolate chip. But in cold weather, I'm a Mallomar. What kind are you? xo

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Sheila's avatar

I just noticed all the semi colons in your images!

Yes to cake 🍰 always an occasion for cake.

As always thoroughly enjoyed reading and listening to you 💕

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks, Sheila! xo

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Sheila's avatar

When I did my tattoo post I couldn’t stop thinking of your wonderful reading out loud ability. I’m such a fumbled reader otherwise I’d love to record it, I always read my work to myself and often to my husband or dog but it’s not sensical enough to record 😆

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Nan Tepper's avatar

I love doing it. I perform in storytelling events, and I love it, so I figured I’d give it a go. I read my pieces over and over to solidify them in my brain, so I rehearse, and then I record. It takes practice and the willingness to either fumble and leave it or start over (more than once!). Maybe one day you will. xo

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Sheila's avatar

Oh wow, there’s a lot of work in it! I’m glad I mentioned this to hear the work you do to record this lovely dictation of your writing ✍️

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Marilea C. Rabasa's avatar

Birthdays are just milestones along the way. But it's the journey that matters. And you know that. Thanks for another great story. (and I remember those "trendy" shoes when they came out. They really are ugly!)

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Yup. I think the shoes are fun and kind of cool looking. I won't buy ugly shoes...oh, wait! I take that back. I bought Birkenstocks years ago, even though I thought they were ugly. What I found out is not only are they ugly, they're also pretty uncomfortable. And then I bought them again, 30 years later. Some of the more designer-y models aren't bad at all, but they're still iffy on my feet. Hard and they don't bend, but they give me arch support which I really need! Now you know a lot more about me...at least as far as my feet are concerned...I just thought of a foot story. Gonna write it one of these days! Thank you for indulging my brief stream of consciousness response. Oh, and there was a Crocs period, too! But that was more about the assortment of fun colors they come in. xo

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J just J's avatar

Hope you a had a wonderful birthday

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks, J just J! xo

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Rev. Evelyn Bourne (Ambilike)'s avatar

Happy belated birthday, Nan.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thank you, Evelyn! xo

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Rona Maynard's avatar

Happy birthday, dear Nan! The world is warmer and brighter with you in it.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thank you, Rona! It was on the 8th, and I figured it would be fun to revive this piece. I published it last year at this time, before I had the podcast! xo

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Mary Austin (she/her)'s avatar

Many birthday blessings! I recently read Will Guidara’s book Unreasonable Hospitality, which talks a lot about the restaurant. How fun that you’re an alum, and that they treated you so well on that birthday.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thank you, Mary! I hadn't heard about the book, that's wonderful. Yes, Danny Meyer, the owner of the Union Square Hospitality Group (who started with the first restaurant, USC,) is THE king of hospitality. His attention to detail, stellar customer service in a friendly way was the thing I valued. What I valued even more was that he treated his staff with the same respect and care he offered customers. Truly an inspiring man, and work experience. If you missed the piece I wrote on waiting on Julia Child, it's here: https://nantepper.com/p/if-youre-afraid-of-butter-use-cream It happened at Union Square Cafe. I hadn't seen or spoken to Danny in years, but reached out to him when I published the essay. He loved it. Oooh. I did go on, and on. Sorry! xo

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Mary Austin (she/her)'s avatar

Oooh, that’s very fun! Lovely piece! There’s a lot about Danny Meyer in the book, too. I love that the generous hospitality extended to the staff. As it should!

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Betty MacDonald's avatar

Happy Birthday, dear friend!!

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thank you, Betty! xo

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Victoria's avatar

Have a fabulous time, Nan and Happy belated birthdays (60 and 62!) HUGS!

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Jodi Sh. Doff's avatar

I had so many pairs of those shoes. I got them to stop me from falling so often, and they did. But I also got plantar fasciitis from walking on the concrete with no cushioning. Love you birfday girl

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Love you, back! I thought they were so cool. I think plantar fasciitis that day, wearing them for just a couple of hours. xo

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