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Amy Cowen's avatar

I enjoy the journey through your essays, the way you construct your story and move philosophically from place to place, so often starting with clear memories of childhood. That was a powerful moment with Indianapolis girl...but what a shift through the years to rote apologies that lost all meaning. I can't even imagine the process of that fifth step -- I can't imagine the trust required with the other person. I really can't. I don't know you and can't say "I'm proud of you," but that's what comes to mind.... kudos to you for those steps you have taken. Kudos for stopping apologizing for being. The statement at the meeting .... tell me everything and let me love you anyway..... wow. Unconditional love and acceptance... your story suggests that exists!

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Nina Gaby's avatar

I hadn’t thought of ‘sorry’ as a way of keeping things moving along, but in our crowded busy lives it certainly does. I never used to say it unless I really needed to, but I realize in the current climate of global anxiety, I say it all the time. Did you ever find out more about Indianapolis? I think you were right, actually. It’s pretty far from NYC on a weekend.

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