Wow, I loved this essay. It really resonated. Recovery has taught me that the sweet spot arrives when I embrace paradox. You describe this so well with the concert of “hurry slow”.
Wow Nan! I appreciate how you have a beautiful gift of articulating your story while drawing your readers into their story and helping us synthesize too! Thx for sharing this with us! 🙏
Yes! It makes me think of walking meditation which I love. My impulse to speed up and it's all about the conscious taking of each step, feeling the foot on the ground. Go slow, yet still forward. xo
Hurry, slow. This is a really great concept, Nan. It is SOOO Hard to settle in to not being able to control the outcome, especially when it comes to healing, “fixing” (which isn’t really the goal)— at least for me. Thank you for sharing
Love this, Nan. Slowing down is, and probably always will be, a daily practice for me. I’m better at the hurry part haha. It’s gotten a lot easier over the years, though, so there’s that ☺️ Lots of love! I’m happy to be back home and slowed down enough that I can catch up on the reading I’ve missed x
Thanks, Ally! Yes. Slowing it all down is practice for me. I've spent a good part of my life with very little impulse control, in regard to so many elements in my life. It's good to stop and breathe. Check out last week's post, especially. It's fun, and light. Good to listen to if you're a listener. Welcome home. I hope your trip was terrific. xoxo
I loved hearing this piece in your voice, Nan! What a powerful essay of honesty and WISDOM. We really can only control our commitment to recovery and healing, not its "final destination" or its length. Thank you for reminding me today to savor and surrender to the healing process.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I'm glad it touched something in you. I feel like I need to be more connected than ever before to myself and work to stay grounded in these stressful times. Enjoy this beautiful day! Gaze at your mountains, and reflect on the gift you've given yourself! Savor.
The concepts you develop here are profound, and you do so eloquently. "It contained zeal and gentleness at the same time. Restraint, but not restriction. There was a sense of savor that was implicit." Each week your writing becomes more and more wonderful. I savor your weekly posts. Thank you!
Thank YOU, my dear. Each week, I learn more about myself as a human being and a writer. Recovery is helping me express thoughts I've always had, and new ideas that are coming through that are kind of mind-blowing. Love to you! xoxo
I love this "hurry, slow" twist on slowing down. These are important reminders and a powerful framework for living. So wonderful to see how you've taken the phrase to heart and found your space with it through the years.
• I love the voice over—you sound very Brené Brown!
On queerness, how would you rate this? A queer 7 out of 10? Isn’t it queer enough the speaker brings up a queer adult relationship!? I’d say that’s very …gay!
Thanks, T.! Wow. Brené? I adore her. One of my favorite wise women.
The piece is definitely queer. I didn't want to misrepresent it though. I am currently writing a memoir about my dad and his coming out and the relationship we had. I want to tell our story. I'm so glad you read it.
Oh! Yes…I think what you write is more vulnerable than Brown. I don’t think she discloses the heavy enough. She discloses transient ego-driven behaviors that can be washed away with a good self-help book & meditation it seems.
What you write is glacial.
I think the message says, “This revelation didn’t happen over night, I dated this aphorism. I got to know it. I slept with it. I took it out to dinner. Then? I fell in love with it. We now read the Sunday NYT in bed together.”
Yeah. You really got it. Thank you. I am truly a muller. And resistant. I'm grateful that I'm open to learning these lessons now. I truly believe that healing and recovery have to be addressed with more than just cognitive behavioral changes. There's a deep spiritual-––healing from trauma––piece that has to go with the work. This from an atheist (or something). My therapist was the person who told that I would heal to a point just doing cognitive work, and that there had to also be a spiritual element in my process. She's the one who sent to 12 Step. I'm still working with my therapist, but adding Program just accelerated my personal growth, self-acceptance, and self-knowledge. It's a very good thing, indeed!
Thank you so much for being real and vulnerable--with your readers and for your time. Time. That means all of your cumulative efforts that got you here safely to express yourself so well.
The PS: I am happy I got it or at least understood it. I struggle. I'm on the spectrum. Not everything gells. Bless you.
You totally got it. I love that it's called the spectrum. Isn't that wonderful. I know I fall within it somewhere. I'm proud of that. I'm sorry that sometimes it's a struggle. I get that, too.
Oh! Thanks a lot for triggering a sobbing response in me. I love this.
(I'm into learning modalities and, when authors read aloud to their audience, it helps. It helps the blind as well as people who don't necessarily "get things" via reading silently. The struggle is real and I'm using my ever-expanding knowledge of myself to also help little ones in the classroom as a SpEd teacher. I hope to be a good role model to them)
Lovely! And the things we can learn as we move through time.
Yes! And being able to notice and acknowledge ourselves for the things we learn. xoxo
Wow, I loved this essay. It really resonated. Recovery has taught me that the sweet spot arrives when I embrace paradox. You describe this so well with the concert of “hurry slow”.
I’ll take this with me - thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you, Allison It really does work for me, too.
Wow Nan! I appreciate how you have a beautiful gift of articulating your story while drawing your readers into their story and helping us synthesize too! Thx for sharing this with us! 🙏
Thank you, Pamela!
all there is is now - I agree, that is all we have.
Hurry slow, savor. Thanks for the reminder :)
Thanks for reading, Rachel! I appreciate it.
A potent and inspiring reminder to "Hurry, Slow" from Nan Tepper ( I needed that today ;)
Thank you Troy! I need it most days!
Yes! It makes me think of walking meditation which I love. My impulse to speed up and it's all about the conscious taking of each step, feeling the foot on the ground. Go slow, yet still forward. xo
Yes. Go slow. I'm finding myself centered in a chaotic world.
Thank you!
Hurry, slow. This is a really great concept, Nan. It is SOOO Hard to settle in to not being able to control the outcome, especially when it comes to healing, “fixing” (which isn’t really the goal)— at least for me. Thank you for sharing
It's my pleasure to share with you. Letting go has really been one of my biggest life challenges. xoxo
Another gooder, Nan. Graceful and full of acceptance and clarity. So glad to hear you're at work on a memoir about yourself and your father!
Thanks, Nina. I love to get your "reviews." xoxo
Love this, Nan. Slowing down is, and probably always will be, a daily practice for me. I’m better at the hurry part haha. It’s gotten a lot easier over the years, though, so there’s that ☺️ Lots of love! I’m happy to be back home and slowed down enough that I can catch up on the reading I’ve missed x
Thanks, Ally! Yes. Slowing it all down is practice for me. I've spent a good part of my life with very little impulse control, in regard to so many elements in my life. It's good to stop and breathe. Check out last week's post, especially. It's fun, and light. Good to listen to if you're a listener. Welcome home. I hope your trip was terrific. xoxo
I loved hearing this piece in your voice, Nan! What a powerful essay of honesty and WISDOM. We really can only control our commitment to recovery and healing, not its "final destination" or its length. Thank you for reminding me today to savor and surrender to the healing process.
Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I'm glad it touched something in you. I feel like I need to be more connected than ever before to myself and work to stay grounded in these stressful times. Enjoy this beautiful day! Gaze at your mountains, and reflect on the gift you've given yourself! Savor.
The concepts you develop here are profound, and you do so eloquently. "It contained zeal and gentleness at the same time. Restraint, but not restriction. There was a sense of savor that was implicit." Each week your writing becomes more and more wonderful. I savor your weekly posts. Thank you!
Thank YOU, my dear. Each week, I learn more about myself as a human being and a writer. Recovery is helping me express thoughts I've always had, and new ideas that are coming through that are kind of mind-blowing. Love to you! xoxo
I love this "hurry, slow" twist on slowing down. These are important reminders and a powerful framework for living. So wonderful to see how you've taken the phrase to heart and found your space with it through the years.
Thanks, Amy!
It’s very sip—not engulf. Wow, I get it!
Why I like it:
Aside from the wisdom of hurrying slowly…
• I love the voice over—you sound very Brené Brown!
On queerness, how would you rate this? A queer 7 out of 10? Isn’t it queer enough the speaker brings up a queer adult relationship!? I’d say that’s very …gay!
Thanks, T.! Wow. Brené? I adore her. One of my favorite wise women.
The piece is definitely queer. I didn't want to misrepresent it though. I am currently writing a memoir about my dad and his coming out and the relationship we had. I want to tell our story. I'm so glad you read it.
Oh! Yes…I think what you write is more vulnerable than Brown. I don’t think she discloses the heavy enough. She discloses transient ego-driven behaviors that can be washed away with a good self-help book & meditation it seems.
What you write is glacial.
I think the message says, “This revelation didn’t happen over night, I dated this aphorism. I got to know it. I slept with it. I took it out to dinner. Then? I fell in love with it. We now read the Sunday NYT in bed together.”
Yeah. You really got it. Thank you. I am truly a muller. And resistant. I'm grateful that I'm open to learning these lessons now. I truly believe that healing and recovery have to be addressed with more than just cognitive behavioral changes. There's a deep spiritual-––healing from trauma––piece that has to go with the work. This from an atheist (or something). My therapist was the person who told that I would heal to a point just doing cognitive work, and that there had to also be a spiritual element in my process. She's the one who sent to 12 Step. I'm still working with my therapist, but adding Program just accelerated my personal growth, self-acceptance, and self-knowledge. It's a very good thing, indeed!
Thank you so much for being real and vulnerable--with your readers and for your time. Time. That means all of your cumulative efforts that got you here safely to express yourself so well.
The PS: I am happy I got it or at least understood it. I struggle. I'm on the spectrum. Not everything gells. Bless you.
You totally got it. I love that it's called the spectrum. Isn't that wonderful. I know I fall within it somewhere. I'm proud of that. I'm sorry that sometimes it's a struggle. I get that, too.
Oh! Thanks a lot for triggering a sobbing response in me. I love this.
(I'm into learning modalities and, when authors read aloud to their audience, it helps. It helps the blind as well as people who don't necessarily "get things" via reading silently. The struggle is real and I'm using my ever-expanding knowledge of myself to also help little ones in the classroom as a SpEd teacher. I hope to be a good role model to them)
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A wonderful, thoughtful piece. Hurry slow - wise advice.
Thanks, Barbara! xoxo
Beautiful piece. I will take “hurry, slow” with me.
Thanks, Meryl! xoxo
Excellent essay, Nan. Wisdom and patience. Thank you.
Thank you, Abby. I appreciate your feedback so much. xoxo