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Jess Greenwood's avatar

You are already doing the most important part of mothering - validation and repair. And what a beautiful exercise to adopt little Nan, to tell her all the things you wished had been invitations made to you. I’m always so taken by where your inner work goes, Nan. I hope you and little Nan enjoy your ice cream 🍦 cone, peach 🍑 since it’s summer.

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Amy Brown's avatar

Nan 💗little Nan, teenage Nan, wise and compassionate adult Nan. What a beautiful family! What a lucky little girl! Inner parts work has opened up so much for me since my work with it began in Sept 2022. It is definitely not malarkey. I could not have left my dysfunctional marriage without really listening to my younger parts, to stop abandoning them to appease others and maintain what I thought was safety and security but which was only a prison. Now I am free and like you, one big happy family where everyone’s feelings are acknowledged. Tantrums not only welcome but encouraged. I love all of me unconditionally, just as you do all of Nan, which makes me so happy. I am so glad that I found the Inner Family System (IFS) approach developed by Richard Schwartz (his book, No Bad Parts, brilliant, right?) let us all eat ice cream with abandon, adults and children alike! (Favorite flavor for me is ideally a pistachio or lemon gelato).

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